Fun and Fearless before 35

Since my birthday is just a few days away I decided its time to wipe out the pen and jot down some few 20 things that all women should do before turning 35.

1. Give up a grudge. Letting go of the old frees you up for the new.

2. Decide on a Wednesday which country you'll be taking a bargain flight to on Friday. Last minute travel gets harder, not easier, when the responsibilities pile on.

3. Ditch the " you know" or whatever little vocal habit you got into during high school. It's, like, not doing you any favors.

4. Create a photo album that's not exclusively on Facebook. It gives you tangible proof that you rocked the hell out in your youth.

5. Take your partner to a cheap motel for sex. After age 35, you won't be able to tolerate the low thread count.

6. Work full-time? Ask your benefits manager about opening an IRA. Really.

7. Still single? Sleep with a bad boy. If its good, do it a few more times.

8. Take yourself out to dinner. Sit at the bar, bring a book, and just chill with-out checking your phone every minute.

9. Host your first cocktail party, the kind with LBDs and wineglasses.

10. Agree to a blind date without asking a million questions about the guy. Just go.

11. Have a cause. Committing to a specific charity.

12. Buy a piece of jewelry that signifies all that you've achieved so far. It will boost your confidence every time you see it.

13. Clean up your social circle by getting rid of the deadweights (you know who they are )

14. Expand your social circle by asking a friend you admire to fix you up with a friend she admires.

15. Learn to curse in at least a new language. Because " shut the eff up" sounds so much more sophisticated in French.

16. You know your favorite type of wine. Now figure out why it's your favorite, so you can describe the flavors, body, and acidity you prefer to a sommelier and ask for recommendations.

17. Stop wearing clothes that aren't you. Start wearing clothes that are you, yet even sexier.

18. Ask for a raise when you've earned it. It is nerve-wracking, heart-pounding, and essential to growing your career.

19. Buy that big vibrator, the smutty e-book, or anything else you used to be too shy to purchase. You're a woman who needs it. Own it.

20. Choose a larger than life old school idol. Jackie O, Steve Tyler, Mick Jagger ( it doesn't have to be a chick) to be fun, fearless model for your style and/or attitude.